Tales of Everyday Life
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Not surprising with the cost of diesel and beef right now. Fortunately for me, I love to cook.
coreymb
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That cant help, but 5 guys has always been overpriced. The little burger they offer is like 9 bucks and its like a 3.5 oz patty.
Los Lobos
OG Junkie GOAT
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I went there once and was extremely disappointed. I heard good things, but the burger was mediocre and the fries were soggy with grease. I accept that it could have been an isolated incident at that location, but I have not been excited to try them again. And I don't think there are any in Alaska.
Yeah, that place is stupid and overrated. We went there twice and that was a wrap. $15 for a fast food burger? Nope.
osubuckeye4
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I've been trying to teach my daughter (13, almost 14) to be more accountable/responsible and to not rely on me for literally everything.
Well, we got her a new bike and it was suppose to arrive sometime this week, but ended up arriving the other day (oddly on Sunday late afternoon, Amazon was hustling) and I told her, "either you can wait till later in the week when I had set time aside for this and I'll help you put it together then, or you can give it a go on your own today"
She actually called a friend over and they did a decent job assembling the thing, but when she went to test ride it there was a really loud clicking noise coming from the front end of the bike.
This led to a 20 minute argument where she said, "that's normal" and I explained that's not normal and there is some kind of obstruction.
Eventually she calmed down and I was able to take a look at it and sure enough, she installed the front brake line thru the center of the bike rather than on the outside of the frame (there is a clamp that she did use to clamp the cord down, but you are suppose to clamp from the outside of the frame) and the rubber cord going from the handlebars to the brake disc was brushing against the front wheel every time she pedaled it. It was an easy enough fix (which I had her do while I held the frame for her), but man... I don't get this part where something is clearly wrong and the kid is like, "oh it's fine, it's suppose to sound like it's falling apart when you pedal it!"
Is this a normal thing for kids now? I just remember growing up if it sounded like my bike was about to collapse I would pull it over and try to diagnose the problem... I wouldn't be like, "I'm sure everything will be great!" and pedal into the neighborhood amongst traffic.
Well, we got her a new bike and it was suppose to arrive sometime this week, but ended up arriving the other day (oddly on Sunday late afternoon, Amazon was hustling) and I told her, "either you can wait till later in the week when I had set time aside for this and I'll help you put it together then, or you can give it a go on your own today"
She actually called a friend over and they did a decent job assembling the thing, but when she went to test ride it there was a really loud clicking noise coming from the front end of the bike.
This led to a 20 minute argument where she said, "that's normal" and I explained that's not normal and there is some kind of obstruction.
Eventually she calmed down and I was able to take a look at it and sure enough, she installed the front brake line thru the center of the bike rather than on the outside of the frame (there is a clamp that she did use to clamp the cord down, but you are suppose to clamp from the outside of the frame) and the rubber cord going from the handlebars to the brake disc was brushing against the front wheel every time she pedaled it. It was an easy enough fix (which I had her do while I held the frame for her), but man... I don't get this part where something is clearly wrong and the kid is like, "oh it's fine, it's suppose to sound like it's falling apart when you pedal it!"
Is this a normal thing for kids now? I just remember growing up if it sounded like my bike was about to collapse I would pull it over and try to diagnose the problem... I wouldn't be like, "I'm sure everything will be great!" and pedal into the neighborhood amongst traffic.
I think it is more that she didn't want to be wrong. She felt like she did it on her own and wasn't amenable to correction from dad.
osubuckeye4
Well-known member
That could definitely be it.
I did make sure to praise her on the (almost) great job she did with it before pointing out the "uh, the front tire doesn't sound right..." criticism.
For what it's worth I also went on YouTube and there were a ton of, presumably adults, complaining about what a pain in the ass the thing was to put together and how shitty the provided instructions were. I told her she did a better job than most people who attempted to assemble the same thing and I was proud of her for doing it.
I dunno, I'm probably being paranoid because she had cousins that are now 'grown-up's (in their 20s) that are complete fucking idiots when it comes to maintenance of expensive things they own. My wife or I will get calls from them and they'll be like, "my car is making this really weird sound and I don't know what is going on" and I'll be like, "uh, when was the last time you had your brake pads replaced?" and they will be like, "you have to replace those?"
To be fair, their mom (single parent) was/is a complete trainwreck and gave them literally no life lessons. Pretty much everything they have learned about being a semi-functional adult has come from their grandparents and my wife and I.
Ulf Murphy
Old Man Yelling at Clouds
100% agreed. It is also the age. From almost 14 to 17.9, she will think you are the world's biggest moron, know nothing, and have nothing valuable to offer to any situation that does not involve opening your wallet. Don't worry, it will get better. Just do not break down and give in to the whimsy.
ABB
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Wasn't a big nuance to her as compared to what she overcame to get to that point: fear. She called a friend for help, read the instructions, picked up some tools, and did that manly deed. Being able to pedal and ride the bike was the big reward to completing that process, even if an adjustment needed to be made.
She should get a heavy dose of praise for that and a small dose of Sometimes we have to make slight adjustments in response to a noise that sounds like it is alerting us to a potential issue. That's life. No matter how well you do or how thorough the process was, sometimes adjustments need to be made. And every time you go through this process it gets easier, experience is the mother of all teachers. You did amazing kid!
bconcrete
VolksFAGGIN
One thing I'm noticing as a girl dad (younger than yours is now, so maybe this isn't it) is how eager for approval and sensitive to criticism they are.
Really seems like my daughter wants to be perfect in my eyes, and she'll not hear the fifteen things of praise I give her for the things she does while she hyperfixates on the one piece of criticism.
Its a real bitch, I don't want her thinking she's not doing good enough just because there are things she can improve, but I also don't want to sugarcoat shit. IDK what to do about it. I love that she thinks so highly and wants to impress me, but I never want her thinking critical feedback is me saying she's not good enough.
ABB
Mega Ultra Ultimate Magnificent Chief Moderator
I think that's just the human condition: the search for validation.
Los Lobos
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She doesn't belive you cause you're dad.
My daughter is similar with me. Im failry good, dare I say, really good at coaching sports. And I've tried to teach her everything but I'm always somehow doing it wrong.
Ulf Murphy
Old Man Yelling at Clouds
Have you talked to her about it? Mine were both the same way. They both sort of still are.
And honestly, I made mistakes in both my tone and actual words said that cause(d) more tears that I ever thought possible. But once I talk to them like a rational adult about my meaning, they both understood my point of view and why I said what I said even though it hurt their feelings.
I am guessing that was when they were around 8 or 9 years old. I still do it today occassionally. My oldest is studying for a pretty big thing and she got a crap score on her practice test and my casual "you are not working smart enough if you are not improving" went over like a brick to her head. Tears and sobs. Fuck. Once she took a breath, and i explained that it wasn't a criticism of her personally, but of her actions, it made more sense. Not sure if her behavior will change, but I said my piece and it is on her now.
Sometimes, I think that Dad mentality is always going to cause friction. Men think differently, which is why our species survived. ;)
osubuckeye4
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ABB
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common issue with beginner or novice putter-togetherers. Anything that involves a back-up wrench to keep the thing you're tightening secure while it's being tightened (because it spins or rotates) is bound to be determined as not that necessary. Until you get to the park and discover that the natural rotation of pedaling hath unspun the threading.