Being a father and fighting for custody
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Puxin said:
Fortunately, I have never had to experience it.
I'm sick of the post-women's lib crap that says both sexes are equal but clings to vestiges of a time when sexes had roles so long as it benefits women (e.g. women make better parents).
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True. It's an odd world where women expect the same education, jobs and salaries (which is fair), but then men still have to pay for most everything and get denied access to their own children.
redd1 said:
Yeah it drives me insane how much the system is stacked against the fathers, especially if they are not married to the mother.
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I don't know the statistics, but I keep hearing that people are less and less likely to get married these days.
redd1 said:
I have heard that too, and that the average age of marriage is much higher.
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A higher age is not a bad thing if by higher we mean 30. If we mean 40 (as seems to be the case near where I live) then we have to worry about birth defects and such.
renjr84 said:
That was powerful although I haven't experienced it but is this really suppose to be in the General forum or is it ok because its the legend Copper
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??? Off Topic is the appropriate place for it. I also believe it's a worthy topic to discuss - better than some other s--- people post in here...(which I'm guilty of, lol).
I was the opposite, a step dad for a little girl from 2-4.5yyears old, and when we had issues, i always had to just her go and accept losing her and when they came back, go back to loving her like nothing happened.
just lost her for good last week, her mommy has now left her first daddy, and before the age of 5, left her second daddy figure she loved.
As a non parent you get ripped on because "you have no idea what it feels like... " but you pick up very quickly the traits of the parents. my girl they tell everybody is slowerer in her developement. after spelling molly final able to do the M, i showed her about 10 words, and she was able to spell them mostly without and from memory the next day...
when it's over, its hard to go from knowing they absolutely love you no different than their own parents(i met her when she was one, so older is different) and you love them no different only to never see them again
when we first broke up, i had to phone police because she was telling every i had put her kid in danger, and that i was a threat to their safety, 40 texts on my birthday she didn't want her kid to die because i bad friends...
long story short, we got back together...
moms and dads can be f*cked up.
CopperHeart said:
Though I have a feeling that's his "poetry accent."
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I see what you mean, but there's no faking the emotion he conveyed in that speech. Thanks for sharing CH
I feel for you guys. I can't compare because I'm not a parent myself (yet) and I had limited exposure to any situation of the sort until I met my partner, who lived through one.
She's also a teacher, (so's her mum and so are several of her mum's friends) so I get all the stories about the kids and parents they interact with. While I realise sometimes the future will be what it'll be (and I'm by no means thinking it'll happen to us), I'm learning everything I can from the experiences she shares to better myself and our relationship.
I do agree that there's a bias against fathers, and there's plenty of people who will say there's still reason to be. I've had the statistics read to me and they're stacked against males. But by the same token, numbers do not make everybody the same. With the amount the world and culture is changing, it's unfair to tar every case with the same brush.
Jak said:
I was the opposite, a step dad for a little girl from 2-4.5yyears old, and when we had issues, i always had to just her go and accept losing her and when they came back, go back to loving her like nothing happened.
just lost her for good last week, her mommy has now left her first daddy, and before the age of 5, left her second daddy figure she loved.
As a non parent you get ripped on because "you have no idea what it feels like... " but you pick up very quickly the traits of the parents. my girl they tell everybody is slowerer in her developement. after spelling molly final able to do the M, i showed her about 10 words, and she was able to spell them mostly without and from memory the next day...
when it's over, its hard to go from knowing they absolutely love you no different than their own parents(i met her when she was one, so older is different) and you love them no different only to never see them again
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Jak, my heart goes out to you, bud.