How Did You Know When to Break Up?

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:19 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

I'm hoping you guys can help me out with a situation. There's been some great wisdom dispensed on this board since it's been around.
I don't really want to get into the details of my situation, but...
For those of you who have broken it off with a long term girlfriend or spouse...
When exactly did you know you were going to? What made you know that it was what the decision to make? Did you struggle with the decision? If so, why?

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Berghoff
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:23 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

She stopped the r jobs?

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: clockwerk
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:28 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

When I walked in and found her with a chinese transexual.
Nah I'm just kidding that's when I married her.
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But seriously dude...it's situational. Unless you can give us a general outline of the situation, the investment and emotionally where you are, there' nothing anyone can say beyond platitudes.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:35 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

clockwerk said:
When I walked in and found her with a chinese transexual.
Nah I'm just kidding that's when I married her.
EDIT:
But seriously dude...it's situational. Unless you can give us a general outline of the situation, the investment and emotionally where you are, there' nothing anyone can say beyond platitudes.
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We have been together for three years and it's time, for lack of a better expression, to either sh*t or get off the pot. I'm 33 and she's 31. I know it's situational, but I'm interested to hear about all the situations from those who are willing to share them. I'm happy to share my old experiences from the past, but because this is going on right now I don't want to say too much except that we are having problems.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Berghoff
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:43 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Honest answer, cause youve been pretty cool to me...
I haven't had many long term things... actually closer to zero than to two. I tend to enjoy testing the waters rather than diving in. I don't see that changing (so, as usual, my opinion means s---)... but....
I take the following into consideration:
- Does she annoy the piss out of me at any point?
- Do any of my friends/family(loved ones) loathe her?
- Does she make me have reservations in my head, keeping me back from things?
- Do I have big doubts?
If there is a yes in there, I'd put on my Pumas and take a walk. But make sure you pack your Celine CDs first.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:46 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Berghoff said:
Honest answer, cause youve been pretty cool to me...
I haven't had many long term things... actually closer to zero than to two. I tend to enjoy testing the waters rather than diving in. I don't see that changing (so, as usual, my opinion means s**t)... but....
I take the following into consideration:
- Does she annoy the piss out of me at any point?
- Do any of my friends/family(loved ones) loathe her?
- Does she make me have reservations in my head, keeping me back from things?
- Do I have big doubts?
If there is a yes in there, I'd put on my Pumas and take a walk. But make sure you pack your Celine CDs first.
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Thanks, man, I appreciate it. According to your checklist, it's Puma time.
When you do have your first longer term-er... strap yourself in, my man. It is almost always a bumpy ride.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: bp
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:46 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Let me know if you find out.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: EnderWiggin
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:47 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Sucks. Almost never an easy decision. I don't think I've ever made the right decision at the right time. I always waited too long to end it.
My first serious gf pretty much just lost interest, but wouldn't admit that she didn't want to be with me anymore. I lived with it and lived with it and lived with it. Tried everything I could, from romance to hard to get to get her back into me. Eventually I couldn't take it anymore and broke up with her.
What was reeeally stupid was when I took her back 3 months later, forsaking the best streak of action (in terms of quantity) I could ever imagine. A year later, same thing happened. I didn't try near as hard the second time. Just ended it real quick.
Good Luck.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Berghoff
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:48 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Andre3000 said:
Berghoff said:
Honest answer, cause youve been pretty cool to me...
I haven't had many long term things... actually closer to zero than to two. I tend to enjoy testing the waters rather than diving in. I don't see that changing (so, as usual, my opinion means s**t)... but....
I take the following into consideration:
- Does she annoy the piss out of me at any point?
- Do any of my friends/family(loved ones) loathe her?
- Does she make me have reservations in my head, keeping me back from things?
- Do I have big doubts?
If there is a yes in there, I'd put on my Pumas and take a walk. But make sure you pack your Celine CDs first.
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Thanks, man, I appreciate it. According to your checklist, it's Puma time.
When you do have your first longer term-er... strap yourself in, my man. It is almost always a bumpy ride.
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Well, lemme know when you're done with her and send her to Chicago. I'll let you know how it goes.
What? I'm not ashamed of sloppy seconds.
(Good luck, I know it's rough, but something every cat will have to do, unless they were a delusional high-schooler and married their sweetheart and now want to kill themselves after 20 years of marriage and 5 kids)

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: bp
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:49 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

EnderWiggin said:
gf pretty much just lost interest, but wouldn't admit that she didn't want to be with me anymore. I lived with it and lived with it and lived with it. Tried everything I could, from romance to hard to get to get her back into me.
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This sounds waaaaay too familiar right now.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: phoenix-mma
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:50 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

I know i'm king smartass...but this is a serious response.
With my ex girlfriend i knew it was time to break it off when the "little white lies" weren't worth overlooking. My ex was very attractive and equally insecure. And when you 1st get involved you tend to overlook things when the other person embellishes a bit. (ex; she once told me she had a 200 IQ)....LOL...yeah i know, my response exactly. But i just rolled my eyes and blew it off. Those lil things like that continued to snowball. Eventually she told me she was thinkin about moving to Cali (she would always try this to get me to say "no don't go) and i finally said...yeah, i think it would be good.
That was a year and a half ago. She moved to TX...and we remained "cool" and she would call/txt with the most unbelievable stories of guys she was dating, how he was a "multi millionaire" and then proceeded to ask if i would co-sign for a car loan. Even typing this makes me laugh as i think back.
Anyway, i met my current girlfriend soon after and discovered that relationships don't always start with deception and people actually do talk about things and work on their lines of communication. It just confirmed that i have the right girl in my life now.
I don't know what your situation is but, if you're asking yourself these questions then you know its probably time to move on.
"its not that easy Kim...i can't just break up.....he's got my cd's in his truck" Dane Cook

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: HISTORY
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:52 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Berghoff said:
Honest answer, cause youve been pretty cool to me...
I haven't had many long term things... actually closer to zero than to two. I tend to enjoy testing the waters rather than diving in. I don't see that changing (so, as usual, my opinion means s**t)... but....
I take the following into consideration:
- Does she annoy the piss out of me at any point?
- Do any of my friends/family(loved ones) loathe her?
- Does she make me have reservations in my head, keeping me back from things?
- Do I have big doubts?
If there is a yes in there, I'd put on my Pumas and take a walk. But make sure you pack your Celine CDs first.
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Who are you to have a say on this subject?
I would bet anyone on the forum, including Prizzy has gone on more dates and had more success with opposite gender than you.
Andre, can't help you bro. I don't know the full details or live in your basement and know what's going down. I haven't been in a relationship that's lasted more then 13 months either.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:55 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

phoenix-mma said:
work on their lines of communication.
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That, I think, is the key. And that's where we're really struggling right now. I go into conflicts trying to resolve and she goes in trying to win a fight.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:57 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

HISTORY said:
Who are you to have a say on this subject?
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I know you you hate him, but I think he was sincerely trying to be helpful.
BTW thanks for the backup in the Havok situation (that goes to EW too). It's nice to have friends speak up on your behalf.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: EnderWiggin
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:57 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

bp said:
EnderWiggin said:
gf pretty much just lost interest, but wouldn't admit that she didn't want to be with me anymore. I lived with it and lived with it and lived with it. Tried everything I could, from romance to hard to get to get her back into me.
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This sounds waaaaay too familiar right now.
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f'in ego killer that is.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:58 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

How old are you Phoenix, if I may ask that question?

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: EnderWiggin
Date: January 16, 2009 at 10:59 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Andre3000 said:
HISTORY said:
Who are you to have a say on this subject?
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I know you you hate him, but I think he was sincerely trying to be helpful.
BTW thanks for the backup in the Havok situation (that goes to EW too). It's nice to have friends speak up on your behalf.
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Any time.
Although I can't believe I only got one laugh out of the black puck joke. I thought it was one of my best ever.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Meatmallet
Date: January 16, 2009 at 11:02 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Andre.
I had the same thing happen to me before. Ask yourself only two qusetions.
If she was gone tomorrow would you care?
Would it be more than 2 days till you were on something else?
If you answer yes to either of these then roll the F out.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 11:02 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

EnderWiggin said:
Andre3000 said:
HISTORY said:
Who are you to have a say on this subject?
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I know you you hate him, but I think he was sincerely trying to be helpful.
BTW thanks for the backup in the Havok situation (that goes to EW too). It's nice to have friends speak up on your behalf.
Click to expand...
Any time.
Although I can't believe I only got one laugh out of the black puck joke. I thought it was one of my best ever.
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Dude, when I read that I laughed so hard that the lawyer who works two offices away from me came into my office and said that's the hardest she ever heard me laugh, so she had to see what it was. I was like, "Uh.... it's not really appropriate.... it's an inside joke..... but it's not really inapropriate......." and I didn't let her see it (obviously). AWKWARD.

 

[Nastycrow]

Originally posted by: Andre3000
Date: January 16, 2009 at 11:04 PM
Source: https://forum.mmajunkie.com/threads/how-did-you-know-when-to-break-up.9264/

Meatmallet said:
Andre.
I had the same thing happen to me before. Ask yourself only two qusetions.
If she was gone tomorrow would you care?
Would it be more than 2 days till you were on something else?
If you answer yes to either of these then roll the F out.
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I would care and it would take me much longer than 2 days until I was onto something else. This is a serious, we've talked about getting married, our families know each other, type of deal.