I have nothing against anyone or I don't wanna come off as a racist because that I am not.
Any who, over the weekend I received some shocking news.
My younger sister is now pregnant.
My family is Mexican and his family are African American.
Like I said I have nothing against anyone but what concerns me are the vastly different cultures.
Our family is family oriented and are always together whether it be gatherings or parties or whatever. We stick together because we were raised that way, yet his family are more like loners, don't really spend to much time with each other.
My concern is how will this affect if at all the upcoming birth of my nephew/niece.
Thoughts?
well, either way, you have to always support your loved ones. people can't help who they fall in love with and there should be no barriers when it comes to that. color, race, social status, nationality, religion.
the person who should be concerned with all this is your sister. if she feels the family bond the way you do, she will make her man participate. who knows, he may embrace the family atmpsphere being that his family was a bunch of loners. if that doesn't happen, it's kinda out of your hands.
all you can do is be the best uncle to your nephew/ niece.
gg
@mmajunkiegeorge
@mmajunkieradio
racist
I'm black lets get that out of the way
My ex is puerto rican now my family seem to me to never have a problem with it. ( key word in that sentence is Seem) my mom and her went out together shopping, movies, ect. Now what are you concerns with being family oriented? If his family is not then he will spend more time with yours & then their no debate on who gets the holidays
Your not a racist because those are the most concerns that everyone has when it's something different but getting to know him should help
remember it's not what you or your family want it what she wants as long he treat her right
Right. My daughter is 25% Latina, 75% White.
I couldn't care less about the race or even gender of the person she marries.
As long as she's treated with kindness and respect.
The last two women I dated long-term are Black so my daughter knows for a fact that I don't discriminate (except dudes - I won't date dudes - gotta draw the line somewhere).
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CopperHeart said:
Right. My daughter is 25% Latina, 75% White.
I couldn't care less about the race or even gender of the person she marries.
As long as she's treated with kindness and respect.
The last two women I dated long-term are Black so my daughter knows for a fact that I don't discriminate (except dudes - I won't date dudes - gotta draw the line somewhere).
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Typical genderist.
IvanCarranza said:
I have nothing against anyone or I don't wanna come off as a racist because that I am not.
Any who, over the weekend I received some shocking news.
My younger sister is now pregnant.
My family is Mexican and his family are African American.
Like I said I have nothing against anyone but what concerns me are the vastly different cultures.
Our family is family oriented and are always together whether it be gatherings or parties or whatever. We stick together because we were raised that way, yet his family are more like loners, don't really spend to much time with each other.
My concern is how will this affect if at all the upcoming birth of my nephew/niece.
Thoughts?
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The bigger question is how can you let you sister date Amod from Mississippi? lol
On paper marrying someone from the same race, nationality, socio-economic background, etc. is the best idea. Marriage/relationships are hard enough, but having to deal with all of the cultural issures too can intensify that. With that said, once two people have fallen in love it's too late to consider all of that. As a brother, you need to unconditionally support your sister even if it's not ideal in your book.
Dr. Clint
PHX
Half black and half mexican... he could make one hell of a fighter
It always came as a bit of a shock to me how heightened peoples sense of race is in america (even though in Ireland there's basically been a civil war raging for the past 40 years between nationalists and loyalists so i dunno why i should be so shocked) but over the past few years the large amount of eastern europeans coming into Ireland has resulted in the same sort of racial devide, not in a racist way but theres that underlying feeling of us and them sorta thing. Theres also been a lot of africans settling here, so I guess I understand it know.
Did you ever imagine if his family is asking the same question since the girl he got pregnant is Mexican? I guess my point is, if your concern was truly about the family aspect, then the issue of Mexican and Black needed not to be addressed. To begin a statement with "I'm not a racist but", leads me to think maybe the only problem that lies here is within you. Take a hard look and see what I'm saying. Your sister is apparently fine, thus your niece/nephew will also be fine. Food for thought.
Easy,
Sam "ALL JAM"
SamALLJAM said:
Did you ever imagine if his family is asking the same question since the girl he got pregnant is Mexican? I guess my point is, if your concern was truly about the family aspect, then the issue of Mexican and Black needed not to be addressed. To begin a statement with "I'm not a racist but", leads me to think maybe the only problem that lies here is within you. Take a hard look and see what I'm saying. Your sister is apparently fine, thus your niece/nephew will also be fine. Food for thought.
Easy,
Sam "ALL JAM"
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+1
One of my favorite teachers taught me anytime you say "but" everything before it becomes meaningless.
IvanCarranza said:
Like I said I have nothing against anyone but what concerns me are the vastly different cultures.
Our family is family oriented and are always together whether it be gatherings or parties or whatever. We stick together because we were raised that way
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Just to be clear... Are you under the impression that black families aren't family oriented and not raised that way, or are refering to his family specifically?
WestsideGrappler said:
IvanCarranza said:
Like I said I have nothing against anyone but what concerns me are the vastly different cultures.
Our family is family oriented and are always together whether it be gatherings or parties or whatever. We stick together because we were raised that way
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Just to be clear... Are you under the impression that black families aren't family oriented and not raised that way, or are refering to his family specifically?
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haha
he later goes on to say that his family are made up of loner so Im guessing just that family
I love the fact that some people don't care about the cultural differences or "unnatural" situations rather than what is good "on paper". It is not like the conventional families are having resounding success in our world right now...maybe what we need is some pot mixing. The fact that there is even an issue in our world with inter-racial relationships reflects the insecurity people have with something that is "different". I look for situations with my own family where my kids can experience different cultures and that is a big reason I loved living in the city where I was the minority.
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It was curious how the original post was about cultural differences yet the subject was about pregnancies.
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Feeling the same way, Quite frankly i dont mind loner families, they'll leave me alone which is a blessing.
