Tales of Everyday Life

Did you check out old town scottsdale? Google it. Pretty fun and chill area and is kid friendly during the day. Dont take ylue kiddo at night tho... it becomes more of nightclub/bar kind of area.

Drove thru it, but didn't stop anywhere. Last time my wife was out she went shopping there. But we were just there for the day so didn't really have time.

We ended up going to the airport and having lunch at the restaurant there (decent food and atmosphere, but there were a ton of interesting looking restaurants around town, i wouldn't say that was a must visit)... and then my daughter and I hiked to one of the "vortexes" near the airport, then went a bit further out and did another trail.
 
Drove thru it, but didn't stop anywhere. Last time my wife was out she went shopping there. But we were just there for the day so didn't really have time.

We ended up going to the airport and having lunch at the restaurant there (decent food and atmosphere, but there were a ton of interesting looking restaurants around town)... and then my daughter and I hiked to one of the "vortexes" near the airport, then went a bit further out and did another trail.
Yep. Lots of unique places over there. Hit up camelback mountain if you want to see some of the best views in the city. But go alone. It's a workout!
 
Yep. Lots of unique places over there. Hit up camelback mountain if you want to see some of the best views in the city. But go alone. It's a workout!

My daughter was cracking me up... after Sedona she picked "echo canyon" as our next hiking trip. (Which is part of Camelback)

I look it up and it's rated a "double black diamond" level trail.

She was struggling a bit with the 'rope climb' parts of the airport vortex trail... not physically, more mentally... I was like "how about we do Wind Cave (moderate, vs the easy Sedona one) and see how that goes?"

She ended up doing great, I was wiped out by the end... I told her we'll do Camelback next time we're down here, I gotta hit the incline treadmill for a bit to prepare 😎
 
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I'm on like my 5th Saturday in a row of house hunting in Central Florida. I'd say at least 50% of this year had been house hunting/touring neighborhoods.
 
That was wild... taking an Uber back from the airport. I'm about a mile from my house and up at the intersection ahead of us a Cybertruck blows a red light and smashes into an SUV. Loud, solid crunch.

We pull up to see wtf is going on and she enough, dumbass went head-on into a police car/SUV.

At first my Uber driver threw on the emergency blinkers and was like, "shit, should we help?"... within 20 seconds 2 more squad cars are hauling ass in from the other direction, so we just continued on our way. We pull into my driveway and 2 more cop cars are headed that way.

I got a feeling it's gonna be a bad next couple weeks for that Cybertruck driver...
 
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I'm on like my 5th Saturday in a row of house hunting in Central Florida. I'd say at least 50% of this year had been house hunting/touring neighborhoods.
remember
all Realtors are both useless and liars. They are only working for the deal, not you. But since you know that, you can use it against them.
"oh, you should meet their price"
"nah, this is my price, how about YOU come up with the difference" (which amazingly sometimes they will)
then it's not such a big deal, when it's THEIR money.

Golden rule of RE: You make your profit when you buy. Bargain hard. It's just a house, they made millions of them. Get your deal, or walk away.
 
That was wild... taking an Uber back from the airport. I'm about a mile from my house and up at the intersection ahead of us a Cybertruck blows a red light and smashes into an SUV. Loud, solid crunch.

We pull up to see wtf is going on and she enough, dumbass went head-on into a police car/SUV.

At first my Uber driver threw on the emergency blinkers and was like, "shit, should we help?"... within 20 seconds 2 more squad cars are hauling ass in from the other direction, so we just continued on our way. We pull into my driveway and 2 more cop cars are headed that way.

I got a feeling it's gonna be a bad next couple weeks for that Cybertruck driver...
probably on auto pilot
 
remember
all Realtors are both useless and liars. They are only working for the deal, not you. But since you know that, you can use it against them.
"oh, you should meet their price"
"nah, this is my price, how about YOU come up with the difference" (which amazingly sometimes they will)
then it's not such a big deal, when it's THEIR money.

Golden rule of RE: You make your profit when you buy. Bargain hard. It's just a house, they made millions of them. Get your deal, or walk away.
Correct. We have a great agent, but as soon as my wife says "This house is only worth X amount" she says "well, they won't go that low". Lol...I know they want money so they are going to try for "their" best deal.
As soon as we are ready we are going to offer what we want.
 
Correct. We have a great agent, but as soon as my wife says "This house is only worth X amount" she says "well, they won't go that low". Lol...I know they want money so they are going to try for "their" best deal.
As soon as we are ready we are going to offer what we want.
subtract 10% (minimum) from what you want
you can always go up
you can't go down.

I would always play that shit with realtors Well let's write an offer for X. "oh, they'll be insulted" good for them, well you have to make the other agent understand
"well i don't want to present that offer, ti's insulting"
You are REQUIRED to present written offers. (BTW, anything in real estate MUST be in writing, if ti's not in writing it didn't happen). Do i need to call the broker? (who actually holds the license).
"uhhh no, I"ll present it"

obviously more diplomatic than this but "you work for me, I am paying you" (assuming you are) seems to work wonders.

If you're a seller and the new nonsense which is the same as the old nonsense where you paying the buyer's broker too. Fine, that's awesome, you work for ME. Since i'm paying you), so you go make the buyer (since I"m your client, because I"m paying you) understand that they should accept my price. (seller). Realtors have really pulled the wool over people's eyes, on who is paying and who they are actually working for (themselves) and what actual value and responsibility they have towards their clients. (none. no fiduciary responsibility at all)

One time I was in a hurry (cuz i was starting a job and needed to get moved) and was buying, found a house, wanted to come to a deal. Basically said we're not spending days going back and forth 5 times. We're going to go over to the seller's agents and all get in a room and come to a deal and then you two agents can write it up.

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHhhh both realtors HATED that. hated it, but they did it. I actually became friends with the seller and he said he loved it, because it was just back and forth and boom, do the deal. But the realtors wanted it all hidden.

also if you're first offer to buy gets accepted, you paid too much.
 
probably on auto pilot

There was an incident about 8 months ago or so where a Tesla hit a cop car a town over and the driver was legit asleep with "autopilot" on.

With it being a Sunday haven't seen any news stories on it yet, will keep an eye out though

Didn't look like any deaths, front end of the cop car was totaled though... it hit it really good.
 
There was an incident about 8 months ago or so where a Tesla hit a cop car a town over and the driver was legit asleep with "autopilot" on.

With it being a Sunday haven't seen any news stories on it yet, will keep an eye out though

Didn't look like any deaths, front end of the cop car was totaled though... it hit it really good.
I was behind one of these cyber dicks on the highway the other day. I still can't believe that car. The back window was blacked out of course and that thing is like a giant square dumpster in front of you so you can't see around it or through it. Just a giant visual block out in front of you.
 
more thoughts (of which you probably know, but maybe not, we did just have that thread a few months ago on someone buying their first place).

You make your profit when you buy.
Therefore, there's no point in looking at newly listed houses, nobody is gonna deal in the first week. (i wouldn't, nor should they). But relisted houses (they were for sale, got taken off, then back on, well that's just realtor games, it's still old and aging) You want to look at stale houses, houses that have been for sale for a while or even better ones who's price has been cut (the sellers are coming to grips with reality). I'm sure while looking you are getting a good feel for the market and the areas you are interested in. Nah, that house is too much, nah that house is in a bad location (you can't fix location), that house is overpriced. oh that house sold fast. So you should be able to tell which houses are stale and overpriced and yet still interesting, or more importantly would be interesting AT A BETTER PRICE. People who are paying two mortgages, taxes, insurance, repairs for 9 months are WAY more willing to make a deal than someone who's been on the market since Friday. Those people will bargain.

Dealing with bank owned properties is a waste. The bank DGAF, it doesn't affect them, they don't have to report it, they take no loss on the sale until they actually sell it and the property managers aren't getting graded on it. That market died in 08 when they changed the rules on accounting for it. And the responses take FOREVER.

Dealing with FSBO's (for sale by owner) is almost always a waste. They take everything personally (it's just business), they want too much money (otherwise a realtor would have the listing, but even they can't sell it) and it's been on the market FOREVER. It's worth exploring but unless something SUPER lights your fire, it's rarely worth the time. Paying the realtors is just like the paying taxes, you just gotta do it, it's part of the game.

If you do want/need something big fixed (roof, wall, plumbing, electrical work etc), get the money for it and hire it done yourself. If you want a new roof and agree to it as part of the deal, well as the seller you are going to use the cheapest shittiest company you can. I mean who cares? you aren't living there. As the buyer, nah, I want 15k for a new roof and I"ll get it done (and you'll get it done right. cuz you are living there and do care). Lots of people NEED cash back to get things fixed, but if you don't, getting money off the price pays off long term on both mortgage interest and pushing against tax assessments. (look i only paid X, that's an arms length transaction, best possible comparison there is).

When you make an offer, there's always a time limit on it. (24 hours, 36 hours, whatever). SET A HARD AND FAST LIMIT. (like 24 hours, 36 at most). Don't give them time to think forever on it and make changes. yes or no, make a decision. Offer a decent amount as earnest money if you can. Shows you are a serious buyer. You're talking thru the offer. An offer with 2 grand down means dick, an offer with 20 grand down, well that's a serious buyer. Most states (and you should check on this) it's really really hard to lose your earnest money. Like the deal has to blow up super bad and it to be your fault. Generally in the US, you can walk away for most anything found in inspections and financing and there be no penalty. You get your money back, it's just tied up while the deal is in progress. (and becomes part of the down payment usually). If you get a counter offer (which we'll get to) and you should. It too will have a time limit on it, take damn near every second of it, no matter what your initial thoughts on it are. if they give you 5 days, take the 5 days. Time has value. (don't give someone 5 days either, but people will).

A counter offer is not a modification of your offer, it is an entirely brand new offer. This is important and most people don't understand this. (and realtors prey on this which is why they modify the existing offer to "counter". You can (and should) counter their counter and everything is under negotiation again. They reopened it, not you. If they wanted it closed, they would have accepted it. READ EVERY PIECE of the counter. (read every single word of every single document TBH). I've seen more than once where someone didn't read the whole counter and missed huge pieces of it. In fact, when I sold my last house, I had to rent it back for a week (cuz otherwise how do you use the money to buy the next house? I fail to understand this) and that was reasonable so i was paying them $100 a day for the house up to X days. I get near the end for closing adn I call my realtor and say "hey, my utilities all shut off on closing, none of them have been moved to the new owners (which is the new owners job to set that up) and while I don't normally care, I am going to be living here and I am paying rent so i do expect ot have water, gas power, etc". Could have heard a pin drop. They thought I was going to keep them in my name til the end of the rental. WTF would I do that? not my house anymore I'M PAYING RENT. Neither realtor had read the contract. Well you could just keep them for an extra week. NOT MY PROBLEM the contract says ti's your problem and you need to fix it. And they did. READ IT ALL.

If you present an offer and they do not counter at all. 1. they have a crap agent. 2. walk away. You now have no leverage (think about it from the seller's side. oh they want this house so bad, I didn't have to give up anything and they already came up higher). You are talking thru the offers, always keep talking, you can keep talking until you come to a deal. Some people (and realtors) get really upset by it, too bad. I want the best deal possible and reasonable and both sides want that, and if they are talking then they can come to a deal. Of course you have to feel at some point, you've gotten a majority of what you want and can live with the rest.

A cash offer is better (and cheaper) than any financing offer and a strongly financed (pre approved with lots down, i.e. the deal gonna get done) is better than one that hopes to be financed, upon sale of the other house, with more contingincies. More congingincies from the buyer offer means better price for the seller.

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When you make an offer, there's always a time limit on it. (24 hours, 36 hours, whatever). SET A HARD AND FAST LIMIT. (like 24 hours, 36 at most). Don't give them time to think forever on it and make changes. yes or no, make a decision. Offer a decent amount as earnest money if you can. Shows you are a serious buyer. You're talking thru the offer. An offer with 2 grand down means dick, an offer with 20 grand down, well that's a serious buyer. Most states (and you should check on this) it's really really hard to lose your earnest money. Like the deal has to blow up super bad and it to be your fault. Generally in the US, you can walk away for most anything found in inspections and financing and there be no penalty. You get your money back, it's just tied up while the deal is in progress. (and becomes part of the down payment usually). If you get a counter offer (which we'll get to) and you should. It too will have a time limit on it, take damn near every second of it, no matter what your initial thoughts on it are. if they give you 5 days, take the 5 days. Time has value. (don't give someone 5 days either, but people will).

Let's do this thing.

3....2...1 NOW NOW NOW

DO IT!

DO IT NOW!

 
There was an incident about 8 months ago or so where a Tesla hit a cop car a town over and the driver was legit asleep with "autopilot" on.

With it being a Sunday haven't seen any news stories on it yet, will keep an eye out though

Didn't look like any deaths, front end of the cop car was totaled though... it hit it really good.
Take it to the news thread ;)
 
So, I've alluded to it a little bit, but lately it's been my turn taking punches from life.

Things are as bad as they've ever been between me and my lady, we've been sleeping apart for nearly a month now, and no sign things will magically repair. Long road ahead of us if we want to be together.

Gotten injured, so I haven't been able to workout or do my hobbies the way I'd like.

It's become clear I'll never advance at my job, I'm just too valuable in my current role with all I do and they have no interest in replacing me to let me move up the ladder.

On that note, I've been looking, found a position that'd be perfect for me, a challenge and stretch and a perfect blend of what I do now with the addition of some new skills I'd need to develop. After four rounds of interviews and it being between me and another guy, they took the guy with more technical experience with the system they use.

So yeah, been feeling like a pretty big fuckin failure on all fronts lately and it's weighing on me.

Go to church this morning with Tiny Crete, after another fight with the lady, and am very much in my head. As we're walking in, the Sunday school director pulls me aside to talk for a second. She tells me there's a young kid, a 7th grader, who is absolutely terrified to approach me, but really wants to get my advice on what he should in the gym, and would I be ok if he talked to me and got my input?

I won't lie, this one little thing turned everything around for me today. I said of course, love to, and after the service I sat with him and talked through what he was looking to do, and how he could get there. I'm going to put together a starter workout plan for him with some videos to demonstrate the proper form, and email it to his mom tonight. Told him to let me know how it's going and never be afraid to come talk to me for advice or to celebrate his wins.

He left smiling, his mom was thanking me profusely but really... I think I needed that more than they did and more than they'll ever realize. I'm sure there's some big lesson I could articulate from this if I thought about it long enough, but honestly? I'm just going to take the win and feel better today.
 
So, I've alluded to it a little bit, but lately it's been my turn taking punches from life.

Things are as bad as they've ever been between me and my lady, we've been sleeping apart for nearly a month now, and no sign things will magically repair. Long road ahead of us if we want to be together.

Gotten injured, so I haven't been able to workout or do my hobbies the way I'd like.

It's become clear I'll never advance at my job, I'm just too valuable in my current role with all I do and they have no interest in replacing me to let me move up the ladder.

On that note, I've been looking, found a position that'd be perfect for me, a challenge and stretch and a perfect blend of what I do now with the addition of some new skills I'd need to develop. After four rounds of interviews and it being between me and another guy, they took the guy with more technical experience with the system they use.

So yeah, been feeling like a pretty big fuckin failure on all fronts lately and it's weighing on me.

Go to church this morning with Tiny Crete, after another fight with the lady, and am very much in my head. As we're walking in, the Sunday school director pulls me aside to talk for a second. She tells me there's a young kid, a 7th grader, who is absolutely terrified to approach me, but really wants to get my advice on what he should in the gym, and would I be ok if he talked to me and got my input?

I won't lie, this one little thing turned everything around for me today. I said of course, love to, and after the service I sat with him and talked through what he was looking to do, and how he could get there. I'm going to put together a starter workout plan for him with some videos to demonstrate the proper form, and email it to his mom tonight. Told him to let me know how it's going and never be afraid to come talk to me for advice or to celebrate his wins.

He left smiling, his mom was thanking me profusely but really... I think I needed that more than they did and more than they'll ever realize. I'm sure there's some big lesson I could articulate from this if I thought about it long enough, but honestly? I'm just going to take the win and feel better today.

Can't wait for the lawsuit from the mom after a freeweight brains the kid and he's like, "Mr. Crete said to do it this way!!!"


I kid, I can somewhat relate with everything you wrote (not direct apples to apples, but a lot of it rhymes with my journey thru life).

I had a weird talk with the wife a couple weeks ago and basically it came down to me saying, "look, I understand that you didn't ask to have all of these health problems... but, I feel like we're on a rowboat and I'm trying to row us to shore and you're trying to row in the other direction.

I'm not asking for you to pick up an oar and row as hard as me, because you can't and I accept that. A lot of days though, when you do have the energy to row it's like you actively try to fuck up out course and steer us in the wrong direction with stupid financial decisions and negative examples that you set for our daughter. So... heres where we're at. I'll do ALL of the rowing. All I ask is that when you have the energy to contribute, that you make decisions that align with the course that both of us agreed on when we got married."


I dunno, i feel like its still an uphill battle every day. It's hard for me because my wife didn't choose to have MS or a spinal column collapse in her late 30s, but she has been making a lot of retarded spending decisions when her disability check does hit.
 
Can't wait for the lawsuit from the mom after a freeweight brains the kid and he's like, "Mr. Crete said to do it this way!!!"


I kid, I can somewhat relate with everything you wrote (not direct apples to apples, but a lot of it rhymes with my journey thru life).

I had a weird talk with the wife a couple weeks ago and basically it came down to me saying, "look, I understand that you didn't ask to have all of these health problems... but, I feel like we're on a rowboat and I'm trying to row us to shore and you're trying to row in the other direction.

I'm not asking for you to pick up an oar and row as hard as me, because you can't and I accept that. A lot of days though, when you do have the energy to row it's like you actively try to fuck up out course and steer us in the wrong direction with stupid financial decisions and negative examples that you set for our daughter. So... heres where we're at. I'll do ALL of the rowing. All I ask is that when you have the energy to contribute, that you make decisions that align with the course that both of us agreed on when we got married."


I dunno, i feel like its still an uphill battle every day. It's hard for me because my wife didn't choose to have MS or a spinal column collapse in her late 30s, but she has been making a lot of retarded spending decisions when her disability check does hit.

Can i offer a piece that worked for me and my wife?
My wife hates to do the financial stuff. (I'm pretty sure this is true for most women. it's not their thing. There's a reason household debt exploded after the early 70's when women were allowed to have credit cards, not all, but most). BUT.........she wants some control.

When I was working and she was staying home, she always felt like I was watching and approving (or disapproving) each little piece (which I was, I mean I'm not stupid). What we finally agreed on was that she got an "allowance". at the time it was $500 a month. Just to do whatever. She could buy gifts, she could get food, go out with her friends, do whatever with her $500. and I had no eye to it. (and basically wrote it off). AT the time it was just cash every month.

It wasn't so much that the $500 mattered or even that I cared so much, but she felt like she had some control over some decisions. It could be that since the collapse of her health, your wife feels out of control of even her own body and spending "her" money (cuz it's "her" disability check) lets her feel in control of something. May also be that she feels her life is shortened and doesn't care much about the far future (not unreasonable, and generally women aren't really into future time value anyway). I dunno, I feel like there are some ideas there that might help you both get some control over these things.

I don't feel my wife is a real spender and she doesn't make too many wild dumb decisions (besides probably getting married to me), but it adds up and I think sometimes she doesn't realize how it adds up and I KNOW she doesn't have any idea of current costs. Things just get handled magically (by me doing it) and she's good with that.

Currently cuz we're watching finances much closer (older, no room for fixing fuckups timewise and retirement oncoming, economy sucking dick for last 15 years, etc). I still do all the finances and she gets a checking account (that isn't the house account and I'm still on (cuz i'm old and we're not doing that shit if someone dies)) and she can use it for her side gig (quilting). It's funny how the costs still seem to come out of the household account and only the deposits go in "her" account but whatever. It lets her feel in control. It's only like 2 grand. I KNOW she has no idea what it costs to run the house every month and how fast that would get eaten up. But it keeps everyone "happy".

That's rough BTW with the MS, sorry.
 
So, I've alluded to it a little bit, but lately it's been my turn taking punches from life.

Things are as bad as they've ever been between me and my lady, we've been sleeping apart for nearly a month now, and no sign things will magically repair. Long road ahead of us if we want to be together.

Gotten injured, so I haven't been able to workout or do my hobbies the way I'd like.

It's become clear I'll never advance at my job, I'm just too valuable in my current role with all I do and they have no interest in replacing me to let me move up the ladder.

On that note, I've been looking, found a position that'd be perfect for me, a challenge and stretch and a perfect blend of what I do now with the addition of some new skills I'd need to develop. After four rounds of interviews and it being between me and another guy, they took the guy with more technical experience with the system they use.

So yeah, been feeling like a pretty big fuckin failure on all fronts lately and it's weighing on me.

Go to church this morning with Tiny Crete, after another fight with the lady, and am very much in my head. As we're walking in, the Sunday school director pulls me aside to talk for a second. She tells me there's a young kid, a 7th grader, who is absolutely terrified to approach me, but really wants to get my advice on what he should in the gym, and would I be ok if he talked to me and got my input?

I won't lie, this one little thing turned everything around for me today. I said of course, love to, and after the service I sat with him and talked through what he was looking to do, and how he could get there. I'm going to put together a starter workout plan for him with some videos to demonstrate the proper form, and email it to his mom tonight. Told him to let me know how it's going and never be afraid to come talk to me for advice or to celebrate his wins.

He left smiling, his mom was thanking me profusely but really... I think I needed that more than they did and more than they'll ever realize. I'm sure there's some big lesson I could articulate from this if I thought about it long enough, but honestly? I'm just going to take the win and feel better today.
I'm so sorry to hear that, my man. I've been through a divorce (I know you're not married, but it will be pretty much the same for at this point, minus legal matters), and it is one of life's great displeasures. I hope you and your lady find the outcome that is best for both you and the kiddo.

That's amazing to get that opportunity, though. If the kid pursues it, you will be a huge part of his history forever, and a positive memory for life. That's awesome.
 
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Can i offer a piece that worked for me and my wife?
My wife hates to do the financial stuff. (I'm pretty sure this is true for most women. it's not their thing. There's a reason household debt exploded after the early 70's when women were allowed to have credit cards, not all, but most). BUT.........she wants some control.

When I was working and she was staying home, she always felt like I was watching and approving (or disapproving) each little piece (which I was, I mean I'm not stupid). What we finally agreed on was that she got an "allowance". at the time it was $500 a month. Just to do whatever. She could buy gifts, she could get food, go out with her friends, do whatever with her $500. and I had no eye to it. (and basically wrote it off). AT the time it was just cash every month.

It wasn't so much that the $500 mattered or even that I cared so much, but she felt like she had some control over some decisions. It could be that since the collapse of her health, your wife feels out of control of even her own body and spending "her" money (cuz it's "her" disability check) lets her feel in control of something. May also be that she feels her life is shortened and doesn't care much about the far future (not unreasonable, and generally women aren't really into future time value anyway). I dunno, I feel like there are some ideas there that might help you both get some control over these things.

I don't feel my wife is a real spender and she doesn't make too many wild dumb decisions (besides probably getting married to me), but it adds up and I think sometimes she doesn't realize how it adds up and I KNOW she doesn't have any idea of current costs. Things just get handled magically (by me doing it) and she's good with that.

Currently cuz we're watching finances much closer (older, no room for fixing fuckups timewise and retirement oncoming, economy sucking dick for last 15 years, etc). I still do all the finances and she gets a checking account (that isn't the house account and I'm still on (cuz i'm old and we're not doing that shit if someone dies)) and she can use it for her side gig (quilting). It's funny how the costs still seem to come out of the household account and only the deposits go in "her" account but whatever. It lets her feel in control. It's only like 2 grand. I KNOW she has no idea what it costs to run the house every month and how fast that would get eaten up. But it keeps everyone "happy".

That's rough BTW with the MS, sorry.

The problem is that I take care of literally everything outside of the car payment (she wanted a new car, I paid for $16,000 of it and she is monthly payments on the rest), occasionally groceries and her medical debt. Though, I have paid at least $20,000 out of pocket for MRIs and surgeries that required cash up front.

I even took over our daughters medical and entertainment stuff.

Which is fine by me... but then, at random times she'll pull the, "i didn't keep track of things, so I'll need to borrow $800"

Or, "my substitute teaching check is coming next week, so I'll need you to front me $450 and I'll pay you next Wednesday, if you don't my credit will be ruined"


She'll say, "it was a mistake, people make mistakes!" Or, "it's because of my MS, I can't keep track of things!"

Weird how she can make unlimited mistakes, but if I made any of the same mistakes we'd lose or home or have the power shut off.


That's what I mean by the rowboat analogy.
 
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