I just got home from picking up my grandma in New Jersey. And when i got home I found a note on the table and all of my girlfriends stuff gone. She left me after almost 7 years (Dec 14 would have been 7 years). I am f---ing shocked, this came out of nowhere. She was the only girl i have ever been with and the only person that has been there for me my through everything... the worst part is i was going to ask her to marry me on Christmas eve.. i had it all planned out and it was going to be awesome. and now shes gone... I am so shocked/hurt/upset i have no idea what to do...
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WOW........There had to have been some kind of problems either on her end or in the relationship, because that doesn't make sense for her just to up and leave. Sounds like lack of communication. Best thing to do right now man is just to clear your head before you talk to her.
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That f*cken sucks man! so you had no clue that she was going to do this? there had to be a reason!
Well good luck bra... if it was meant to be than she'll come back.
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Bro....this is probably not what you want to hear....but any woman that would treat you like that is a piece of sh*t and doesnt deserve you anyway....and when she comes crawling back to you tell her to "KICK ROCKS!" Honestly man...any person that is that spineless that after 7yrs doesnt even have enough respect for you to tell you face to face needs to have Anderson Silvas knees planted into her face!! Sorry bro....but you're better off without her. Gods (Allah, whatever) is telling you something....and that thing is SHE'S NOT THE ONE!
gratuitous cliches...
"when one door closes, another opens"
"turn that stumbling block into a stepping stone"
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wow, 7 years? She must have been putting up with something she didn't like about you for too long.
I bet one of her gf's pur her up to it, or she met someone else.
sorry bro.
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SafyreSchool said:
wow, 7 years? She must have been putting up with something she didn't like about you for too long.
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bet one of her gf's pur her up to it, or she met someone else
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sorry bro.
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guarantee
one of her friends put her up too this. They were probably grumbling about it for months. :x
I'm sorry homie. You ain't gonna her no cliches from me dogg. Keep you're head up mayne.
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i agree with phoenix. anyone that is spineless and heartless enough to do this, you shouldnt waste your time on. Specially after 7 years.
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You're going to feel pretty bad for awhile - maybe months, but I can pretty much guarantee that a year from now (or maybe a little longer) you'll go all day... then weeks, months, then years without ever thinking about her or pain associated with her. Avoid drugs or alcohol for a few weeks or months. Just put your energy into work and exercise instead of being depressed or angry. Go for incredibly long runs, or training sessions, - the endorphins will help. Think of this as an opportunity for growth and change.
I felt pretty wounded once after the breakup of a long term relationship, and now I can't even imagine myself with that girl. She wasn't right for me at all, even though she seemed like she was at the time.
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If you need to know why for closure, seek her out and find out just that. Dont get caught though in that web of trying to get her back or not moving forward with your life. At the end of the day, this is your life, and no man or woman should waste their time trying to be with someone who doesnt want them.
Its hard to swallow now, but your better off this happening to you now before the relationship advanced any further. Doesnt seem like it now, but down the road when you meet someone again and stay with the right person, you will be grateful all of this happened.
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Archean_Life said:
You're going to feel pretty bad for awhile - maybe months, but I can pretty much guarantee that a year from now (or maybe a little longer) you'll go all day... then weeks, months, then years without ever thinking about her or pain associated with her. Avoid drugs or alcohol for a few weeks or months. Just put your energy into work and exercise instead of being depressed or angry. Go for incredibly long runs, or training sessions, - the endorphins will help. Think of this as an opportunity for growth and change.
I felt pretty wounded once after the breakup of a long term relationship, and now I can't even imagine myself with that girl. She wasn't right for me at all, even though she seemed like she was at the time.
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This dude is spot on!
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As most here are saying - you'll feel like you got hit by a baseball bat for a while. In the end, though, you dodged a big bullet...
So I'm sorry about the bat - most of us know how that feels - but I'm happy about the bullet. Take care.
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johnnydrama said:
Archean_Life said:
You're going to feel pretty bad for awhile - maybe months, but I can pretty much guarantee that a year from now (or maybe a little longer) you'll go all day... then weeks, months, then years without ever thinking about her or pain associated with her. Avoid drugs or alcohol for a few weeks or months. Just put your energy into work and exercise instead of being depressed or angry. Go for incredibly long runs, or training sessions, - the endorphins will help. Think of this as an opportunity for growth and change.
I felt pretty wounded once after the breakup of a long term relationship, and now I can't even imagine myself with that girl. She wasn't right for me at all, even though she seemed like she was at the time.
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This dude is spot on!
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Put me down for a co-signer.
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I have to ask this; do you play video games?
seriously, I've found that excessive video game playing has left many a woman feeling neglected and has been the emerging cause of breakups as of late.
My gf right now asked me right off when we started dating "do you play video games?" she asked me "have you ever cheated on your gf?" and "how old are you?" AFTER she asked me the video game question. And i ask this also because it seems that you had no clue this was coming, which is odd for 7 years of supposedly knowing her like the back of your hand. It would answer the question as to why differences didn't get brought up as an issue before, sometimes, neglect in small doses like "right after this level" really adds up. They really need to do a scientific study on this sort of thing.
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SafyreSchool said:
I have to ask this; do you play video games?
seriously, I've found that excessive video game playing has left many a woman feeling neglected and has been the emerging cause of breakups as of late.
My gf right now asked me right off when we started dating "do you play video games?" she asked me "have you ever cheated on your gf?" and "how old are you?" AFTER she asked me the video game question. And i ask this also because it seems that you had no clue this was coming, which is odd for 7 years of supposedly knowing her like the back of your hand. It would answer the question as to why differences didn't get brought up as an issue before, sometimes, neglect in small doses like "right after this level" really adds up. They really need to do a scientific study on this sort of thing.
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video games? seriously? If anything I bet it's probably some dirt bag she met at work over the coffee pot. It's always the one at work you have to worry about. It's starts with small talks then it heats up after that. Just saying.
