You know, Tosh thinks "she" has a monopoly on little brown friends and their sad stories. She does not. I also have a Palestinian friend.
My beautiful, extraordinary, impossibly resilient Palestinian friend—and I hesitate even to call her a *friend*, because what we share transcends the limitations of language, geography, religion, and perhaps even the conventional human understanding of love—has survived things that would make most of you collapse into a puddle of your own privilege.
Her family, quite possibly the kindest and most spiritually enlightened people ever to walk this earth, were bombed out of their ancestral home, a modest 600-year-old dwelling constructed by her great-great-great-grandfather from stones he personally carried from the Jordan River. Inside that home were generations of photographs, priceless family heirlooms, and an olive tree that, according to local oral tradition, had once provided shade to a traveling prophet. All gone.
Reduced to dust by the machinery of geopolitical indifference.
They fled to Syria, where they were displaced again. Then Lebanon. Then Jordan. Then a fourth country whose identity I cannot reveal because doing so would compromise several ongoing humanitarian operations, two diplomatic relationships, and the safety of individuals whose names would be familiar to anyone who follows international affairs. I know people.
I don't say that to impress you. I say it because it's relevant. During their escape, her younger brother, who suffers from an exceptionally aggressive form of Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, and AIDS, had to be carried across 73 miles of mountainous desert terrain after his wheelchair was destroyed. Her other brother, who is deaf, blind, nonverbal, and has a rare neurological disorder affecting fewer than eleven people worldwide, who also has AIDS,somehow managed to communicate a message of hope by arranging seven pebbles into the shape of a dove. I still cannot type these words without physically trembling.
At one point, the family went eleven days without food, surviving on rainwater, wild thyme, and the sheer force of their love for one another. Her mother, a former pediatric neurosurgeon who had abandoned a promising career to provide free medical care to displaced children, removed her own shoes so her daughter could continue walking. She walked barefoot across broken glass for nine miles. When asked whether her feet hurt, she simply replied, "A mother's pain is a privilege when her children still have a tomorrow."
And yes, before the inevitable chorus of uninformed, morally bankrupt keyboard warriors descends upon me, I understand the conflict. All of it. I've read the history. I've spoken to survivors. I've studied international humanitarian law, the Geneva Conventions, postcolonial theory, regional security architecture, and the intricate sociopolitical dynamics of the Levant. I've personally had conversations with individuals connected to the United Nations, the State Department, and at least one former head of state whose identity I am not at liberty to disclose. So please, spare me your simplistic arguments.
My friend is now 22 years old, attending a prestigious university just outside Washington, D.C., where she is pursuing simultaneous degrees in pharmacology, biomedical engineering, and international humanitarian law.
She maintains a 4.0 GPA. In three disciplines. In her second language. While working four jobs. While caring for her two disabled brothers. While volunteering 30 hours a week at a refugee assistance center. While quietly developing an experimental treatment for the very disease that is slowly killing her youngest sibling.
And somehow, despite all of this, she still finds time to bake traditional Palestinian bread for the unhoused every Sunday morning.
She once gave away her winter coat to a homeless veteran during a blizzard, despite having pneumonia herself. When I asked why, she looked at me with those enormous, impossibly expressive brown eyes and said, "Because warmth is only meaningful when it is shared." I wept. The veteran wept. A nearby police officer removed his hat. A passing stranger began applauding. That's what real humanity looks like.
But what breaks my heart most is that she's afraid to wear her keffiyeh in public. A woman who has survived bombings, starvation, displacement, unimaginable loss, and the slow deterioration of her own brother's body is afraid to wear a piece of fabric representing her heritage.
Now, I know what you're thinking. How did someone like me become involved in all of this?
I rarely discuss it because I've always found public acknowledgment of one's humanitarian contributions to be distasteful. But since so many of you will choose to question my integrity, I suppose I have little choice but to reluctantly explain. Several years ago, I became involved in an international biomedical research consortium investigating treatments for Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. Not as a physician. Not as a scientist. But as something arguably more important. A human being who cared.
Through a series of circumstances too complicated and sensitive to explain here, I found myself facilitating conversations between researchers, pharmaceutical executives, refugee advocates, and certain individuals within the global intelligence community. I cannot discuss the full extent of my involvement due to nondisclosure agreements. There are people whose lives depend on my discretion.
What I can tell you is that an experimental treatment currently undergoing preliminary evaluation owes at least part of its conceptual foundation to a conversation I had with a researcher at 2:17 a.m. on a Tuesday.
This is #MyStory and my name is #Barnaby