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bconcrete said:
Alright! We're back!

So, as I mentioned above, been having some life changes (although nothing like @IOB WORLDWIDE , congrats on finally starting the hormone treatments and being your true self ma'am. Well deserved), particularly around my career, and that has had me thinking.

For some context, the job I'm moving to has been in the works for damn near six months. I had applied for another role, been through four rounds of interviews, and ended up losing out to someone with some more experience. But they really liked me, and told me they were looking to create a role and bring me on board. I was skeptical, corporate and all, but it ended up coming to pass and becoming a thing.

And that kinda put me in a pickle. There are definitely issues with the place, small company, I was stagnant without much career progression. Like a lot of small companies it could get very cliquey, and the ownership was also the executives and the managers, which is a bit of a dicey spot. But it was comfortable, the pay was good, the workload wasn't killer, and I was good at it. I could've easily coasted there for a while and not worried about a thing. But I chose to go back into the bigger corporate world, a job that's a step up, with more expectation and responsibility. Sure, my commute basically goes away, I get a big raise and an extra week of PTO, but I have the voice in my head wondering if it's worth it and if i made the right call.

And that got me thinking...Crete Thoughts #10: when you have two good options on the table, how do you pick between them? How do you know if you're making the right decision or fucking up?

Honestly, I think these are some of the hardest decisions to make. Its's not choosing between good or bad, or being forced to do something, you have to pick between two good options. You're having to choose between something good, or something that could be better. I know all the math cases and opportunity costs and blah blah blah. Personally, I don't find all that very helpful. To me, those can justify decisions, but I find it impossible to fully quantify every variable properly to use them to actually make the decision. I have to use my gut and just pick what I think is best, and hope I'm not making a choice that'll fuck my life up.

But I'm wondering how y'all do it? How do you approach and make these decisions where there are two good options on the table? How do rationalize your choice at the end?
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You might not know if you're fucking up. Example, my wife was a nurse manager of a very important department at a large hospital. She really loved her job and the people there loved her. She came in after a toxic manager had a breakdown and bailed on them after being there for 8 miserable years. My wife Mary-Poppins'd the shit out of that place. People were routinely crying in her office from joy and relief because they had a manager who actually supported them and got shit done. But her ultimate goal was to become a CNO someday. The next step after manager is to become a director so after 2 good years as a manager, a director position opened up at another large hospital and she decided to go for it. Lots of interviews and some drama later, she got the job and accepted. I can't say I ever felt super good about the change but it was a big step toward her goal.

Well fast forward two years and she HATES her job. Her peers are toxic AF. Jealous, gossipy, shit-spreaders. She had the chance at the exact CNO job she wanted but it ended up going to one of her less qualified peers who's husband is already an organizational executive. Had nepotism written all over it. So now she is just white knuckling this job day-to-day and I'm helping her job hunt. She's extremely good at what she does but is just bogged down but cliquey workplace drama bullshit. She's stated several times she wishes she'd just stayed in the manager job. It basically paid the same but she didn't have that director title.

Maybe some signs were there when she interviewed but she took a gamble and regrets it.
 
Sedulous said:
You might not know if you're fucking up. Example, my wife was a nurse manager of a very important department at a large hospital. She really loved her job and the people there loved her. She came in after a toxic manager had a breakdown and bailed on them after being there for 8 miserable years. My wife Mary-Poppins'd the shit out of that place. People were routinely crying in her office from joy and relief because they had a manager who actually supported them and got shit done. But her ultimate goal was to become a CNO someday. The next step after manager is to become a director so after 2 good years as a manager, a director position opened up at another large hospital and she decided to go for it. Lots of interviews and some drama later, she got the job and accepted. I can't say I ever felt super good about the change but it was a big step toward her goal.

Well fast forward two years and she HATES her job. Her peers are toxic AF. Jealous, gossipy, shit-spreaders. She had the chance at the exact CNO job she wanted but it ended up going to one of her less qualified peers who's husband is already an organizational executive. Had nepotism written all over it. So now she is just white knuckling this job day-to-day and I'm helping her job hunt. She's extremely good at what she does but is just bogged down but cliquey workplace drama bullshit. She's stated several times she wishes she'd just stayed in the manager job. It basically paid the same but she didn't have that director title.

Maybe some signs were there when she interviewed but she took a gamble and regrets it.
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Can she go back to the original hospital?
 
Brick said:
Can she go back to the original hospital?
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She said if that job opened up again she'd go for it. No equivalent openings at that same hospital right now. She has a few other hospitals within the same organization that are a little closer to home that she'd go for too. Something will open up eventually but sometimes takes a few months.
 
Sedulous said:
She said if that job opened up again she'd go for it. No equivalent openings at that same hospital right now. She has a few other hospitals within the same organization that are a little closer to home that she'd go for too. Something will open up eventually but sometimes takes a few months.
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Halsey is smoking here. Straight fire.

 
Sedulous said:
She said if that job opened up again she'd go for it. No equivalent openings at that same hospital right now. She has a few other hospitals within the same organization that are a little closer to home that she'd go for too. Something will open up eventually but sometimes takes a few months.
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Similar situations for me where I got passed up for promotion/new opportunities where I later realized I dodged a point blank buckshot round to the face.
 
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